FRIENDS - Part 5
The truth is, we can’t choose our family. We love them, but we don’t always like all of them. The wonderful thing about good friends is that they can become like family of choice. Some friends are in our lives for a season, and some are there forever. The good news is that we can always look forward to some of the best relationships in the future. Even if friendship is painful in one season, you can be sure it has the possibility of being wonderful in the next.
The Bible says in Proverbs 18:24
“Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family.” (The Message translation)
FRIENDSHIP is known to most of us as, “a close trusting relationship between people.”
The Dictionary definition of “FRIEND” is:
- a list of contacts associated with social networking or situational acquaintance.
- a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection and trust.
These are two very different defintions!
Last week we looked two more characteristics of “True Friends.” Today we continue with our last two characteristics to help us establish healthy, happy friendships.
4. A True FRIEND overlooks faults
“Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.” -Proverbs 17:9 [New Living Translation]
- A true friend talks to their friend, not about their friend!
“If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back. But if you are unsuccessful, take one or two others with you and go back again, so that everything you say may be confirmed by two or three witnesses. If the person still refuses to listen, take your case to the church. Then if he or she won’t accept the church’s decision, treat that person as a pagan or a corrupt tax collector. -Matthew 18:15-19 [New Living Translation]
“I tell you the truth, whatever you forbid on earth will be forbidden in heaven, and whatever you permit on earth will be permitted in heaven.
“I also tell you this: If two of you agree here on earth concerning anything you ask, my Father in heaven will do it for you.
- Sometimes, FRIENDS can hurt us more than anyone…
5. A True FRIEND draws their dependency on God
Oswald Chambers wrote in his book “My Utmost for His Highest”…
“The most important aspect of Christianity is not the work we do, but the relationship we maintain (with God) and the surrounding influence and qualities produced by that relationship. That is all God asks us to give our attention to, and it is the one thing that is continually under attack.”
The closer our relationship with God, the better FRIEND we will be…
We will be a true FRIEND …
-Who brings out the best in others.
- Who protects our friends
- Who keeps their promises
- Who tells the truth
- Who is loyal
- Who overlooks faults
- Who draws dependency on God
AND … who draws others closer to God.
Let’s be committed to being a true friend!