FRIENDS - Part 2
The truth is, we can’t choose our family. We love them, but we don’t always like all of them. The wonderful thing about good friends is that they can become like family of choice. Some friends are in our lives for a season, and some are there forever. The good news is that we can always look forward to some of the best relationships in the future. Even if friendship is painful in one season, you can be sure it has the possibility of being wonderful in the next.
The Bible says in Proverbs 18:24
“Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family.” (The Message translation)
When we moved over here in July 2006, not only did we not have any close friends, our kids didn’t either! We had to become established in a new neighborhood, a new school, a new church family, a new country! Over a decade later, I am glad to say that we have all met some of our best friends since arriving.
I recently celebrated my 50th Birthday (and am so grateful for being middle aged without having a crisis!). Instead of having a birthday party at home, I decided to have a birthday party at our Sisterhood Girl’s Night Out event so that I could invite all the women in my world to come. Sometimes we don’t realize how important we are to others, and when it comes to parties and guest lists, I have observed how hurt people can become if they feel excluded. Although I would never want to leave anyone out, it sometimes happens incidentally. Good friends, however, understand the dilemma and don’t give you a hard time.
My 40th birthday was a similar occasion. I had asked for two things: the first was that everyone be invited. Our church was much smaller then so it was easier to include everyone. The other thing I asked for was no gifts, except that everyone do one act of kindness for someone and share what they did in a letter or card. I have the most beautiful book of cards, notes, letters and photographs from that birthday! One of the letters that is most precious was written by my daughter Bella who was just 9 at the time. She shared about her first week at her new school and how difficult it was to make friends. She was lonely and sad until she saw a little girl sitting on her own at lunchtime. Bella sat with the little girl and they became friends, and are still friends to this day. The little girl’s mother had recently passed away and she was also lonely and sad. We have always taught our kids, “If you don’t have any friends, be a friend.”
Most of us have heard the saying, “Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.”
This is SO true!
- Our friends reflect us.
- Our friends’ proximity to us can promote or paralyze us.
- Our friendships have the ability to make or break our future.
Thought for this week … choose wisely!